Wednesday, January 22, 2014

I'm a Good Girl with A LOT of Bad Habits

I'm far from perfect, and there are many facets of my life that I would like to improve upon. One of the reasons I started blogging is to have a means to hold myself accountable for those improvements, be able to track my progress and to connect with other good girls with bad habits, who are striving to do some of the same things.

I can't recall where I heard it, but apparently it takes 21 days to form a habit. I'd like to know how many days it takes to break bad habits, like, does the 21 days apply to habits you've had for more than two decades?

So, here I am. Practicing some vulnerability (It's scary, putting yourself out there) and exposing some of my fatal flaws with you, in the form of bad habits, hoping you'll help keep me accountable and encourage me to actually make 2014 the year of Change.

Disclaimer: This is not an entirely exhaustive list, and the habits are in no particular order. 

1. I bite my nails. I know it's disgusting and I REALLY want to stop. I've tried the horrible tasting stuff to help deter from nail biting, but it only works in the short-term. Same thing with manicures and that shiz costs $$$. At this point, I don't want to get engaged (I have a LONG time until this is even close to being a possibility) and have fingers/nail beds that look like they've be mauled by piranhas.

2. When it comes to myself, I am a procrastinator. I will put what I need to do on the back burner, to get things done for others. While I joke that I do my best work during crunch time, I would save myself a lot of stress if I would stop procrastinating. 

3. Not telling people, "No." My schedule is ridiculous and I hardly have time for myself because I'm doing this, or that, or this, or that. I will commit to doing things or being somewhere and I literally have no time. I definitely burn the candle at both ends and I'm honestly getting tired. 

3. My eating habits are dreadful and I don't drink water. I hardly ever have a stocked fridge or cook meals because I don't have the time, but in retrospect, I don't really make the time either. I tend to skip meals or eat unhealthy foods. I am a frequent $1 menu orderer.

4. I don't work out like I used to/should. As a result, my body definitely isn't where I would like it to be. I have a closet full of outfits that I'd like to wear, but simply can't fit into them. I've got to make this a priority and I verbalize the desire but the action fails to come.

5. I don't do laundry consistently. I probably have 10+ loads waiting for me to wash and fold. Between the lack of time and motivation, I'm not sure which one is the biggest deterrent.

6.  I'll have to write a blog post about the devastating break-up, but I definitely have some issues that I still need to work out - they are certainly precluding me from being able to really give of myself and be in a fulfilling romantic relationship.

7. I don't track my finances or budget. It's all based on guesstimation. I've got to start being better about the "dolla dolla billz ya'll"

This is probably enough to focus on for now - I seriously have got to get my shit together. I'm one foot into the 30 door and although lovable, I'm a hot mess.

I'm never going to be perfect, but I can certainly settle for being a good girl with some bad habits, in lieu of a lot. I've gotta start making it happen. Perhaps tomorrow will be Day 1, for a habit I'd like to change.

What are some bad habits that you'd like break?

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  1. I bite my nails (nervous habit), spend too much time on eBay (you know this), and the moment I sit down on my couch my motivation to be productive goes right out the window! We can break our bad habits together.

  2. We're like the nail-biting sisters.. I tend to start peeling them if I can actually stand to not bite them. I need to find another less disgusting nervous fall-back..
    You always score fabulous things on eBay - maybe you need to be an official buyer for people, so you can get your Ebay fix, but spend other people's money.
    AND At least you get to your couch - as soon as I walk in the door and set the tote down, motivation has left the building.
    Um, yes - let's break the bad, Mama.

  3. #2 and #3. Totally me!! I always put others before myself BUT I do work better under pressure. Which is a result of #3. I can't focus in me as much because I don't ever say no. I hate to disappoint anyone!!

  4. I HATE HATE HATE to say NO.. And even though there are nice ways to say "No" it is one of my BIGGEST struggles. I should have moved that up to #1 on the list. We need to start putting ourselves first.